We cannot wake up alone because we cannot take ourselves out of control. We cannot press our own buttons and we do not know who we are within the finite limitations of control.
Knowing who we are is a process of discovery that we make on the edges of identity, where we could have no idea how we would respond no matter what we told ourselves until we were there. But beyond this, we cannot know who we are alone, because alone is not real.
Who we are at every point is not a static self, but a process of mutually-influencing reciprocity. In fact, we tap into the truth of who we are when we are able to connect with other nervous systems, progressively extending our consciousness into further and further reaches.
Through this process, we can access the highest-order information for the benefit of the greater community and the individuals involved. If the truth of life lies in our interconnection, there is simply no way to maintain the illusion one can awaken without another.
-The Eros Sutras, Volume 1: Principles