Taking on the Mantle of Erotic Responsibility

Women have taken a hands-off approach to sexuality and dismissed Eros altogether. When she refuses to take the most powerful human drive into her own hands, she ensures both the masculine and the feminine are externally defined and externally driven. She’s left men to design and determine the entire sphere of sexuality from the masculine perspective. She’s absolved herself entirely, not only of working with this power but even of communicating what she desires to those who would build it.

Her method has been to say what is wrong. She demands rights with no accountability. She accepts the benefits of a broken system. She knows at some fundamental level she holds the power, but refuses to learn how to wield it. The world is responsible for her dissatisfaction.

And yet this power is the power of life force. It is what matures a human being from child to adult. She has kept herself dependent in the house of men, complaining about the rules and regulations. She has demanded that he holds this difficult power, and—without any overt communication from her—know exactly what she wants and delivers it on her terms without her involvement, all while the only “training” he’s received has been her commoditization of this power, and her performance. The payoff is she gets to maintain the status of dependent, to not have to face the realities of an adult, to not have to hold the responsibility or make the mistakes.

No one anywhere at any time can give her power. To fight for it, to demand it, to tear the people down who have it—this is to be in the child’s mind, communicating to power itself that she is not ready.

Until woman is willing to take full custodianship of Eros she will remain estranged from her own soul. The moment she does, the world will no longer be built on her absence, but on the fierce, Erotic sovereignty of her return.