Orgasmic Meditation & Flow States

I’ve always been magnetized to that state—the one where everything aligns, where the noise recedes and only the signal remains. Csikszentmihalyi called it flow. Steven Kotler described it as the state that drives athletes to hurl themselves down mountains just to taste it.

I get it. That clarity, that absorption, that moment where the inner narrator finally shuts up and something beyond oneself seems to take the wheel.It’s the rare moment of becoming one with your own life and the environment surrounding it; the painter and the canvas, the snowboarder and the mountain, the nun and the love of Jesus. All willing to forego “life” as most people know it, drawn by and utterly magnetized to what lies behind that door.

It just so happens that my particular door is Eros. What astonishes me is how little we cultivate the most potent endogenous force we have for accessing this state: our own arousal. We micromanage our diets, optimize our schedules, track our steps and sleep—but when it comes to the source of the deepest absorption, intimacy, and vitality, we leave it to whim or chemistry.

Arousal remains a mystery we flirt with, rather than a force we train. Orgasmic Meditation—what I’ve spent the last two decades developing—is a structured, repeatable practice that trains this capacity.

It’s a technology of attention, powered by arousal.

Attention becomes the instrument. Arousal becomes the amplifier. The practice tunes the nervous system to coherence, and in doing so, it opens the door to flow.After nine years of rigorous study—ten scientific papers, eight peer-reviewed, all IRB-approved—a new study has just come out.

Practitioners of Orgasmic Meditation reported states marked by heightened clarity, connection, surrender, and immersive absorption. Hallmarks of flow.

We are only just beginning to glimpse what becomes possible when arousal is no longer treated as distraction or indulgence, but as a foundational capacity—trainable, intelligible, and central to human flourishing. The science is catching up to what mystics, lovers, artists, and athletes have always known in their bodies. What Orgasmic Meditation offers isn’t just another doorway into flow—it’s a blueprint for how to stay there.