Deep inside, every woman knows that the resource her power rests on is her sexuality.
Yet not only does she fear her sexuality, she fears her power.
And why wouldn’t she when the consequences of both are so real for a woman? When if she were to own them she would be at best hated, at worst harmed or demonized?
Some will say that sounds dramatic but if you look throughout history it’s invariably the case.
I’ve known women, I’ve been one of these women who have declared definitively that I wanted to understand my sexuality. I wanted to understand my power.
We want to take the journey of sexual liberation the same way the masculine world offers the journey of spiritual liberation.
We want to know every single aspect of who we are as a sexual human being, as a sexual woman.
I have known women who took that journey and wrote about it, spoke about it, shared about it, loved it. And like any journey, hated it and were frustrated inside of it and hurt by it and upset by it.
These are experiences that you have in any kind of self-realization, in any kind of coming to have self-knowledge, but in an arena that is so demonized, so hated, so feared, it is virtually impossible for a person, much less a woman, to take full ownership of what is inside of her.
The belief system of the culture who not only excuses women from having little facility and little understanding, but has built the entire fabric of our culture on women fearing their own sexuality.
I’ve seen videos of women supporting the idea that women can’t make that decision for themselves. That they need protectors for their sexuality. These women are their sister’s keeper, keeping them from what they kept themselves from. And that is self-knowledge.
When we talk about a woman’s sexuality, it is to know that self, experience that knowledge, and awaken to the true foundation of power.