When I began practicing Orgasmic Meditation, I found more than just peace—I found resilience.
I could withstand difficulties that I couldn’t withstand prior.
What I discovered was an awakened hyperfocus.
There are two instances when that kind of attention is turned on most strongly—in life or death experiences and sexual experiences. With this hyperfocus, life looks like an adventure as opposed to something difficult that you have to make it through.
The more I practiced, the more I could unearth the difficult material inside me.
Dr. Dan Kriegman talks about trauma as the suppression of arousal and OM is about elevating arousal and entering those congested spaces.
In OM, I discovered a profound ability to face both past and present difficulties with a different mindset. It wasn’t just about surviving; it was about thriving, shifting from managing life to creating it.
When I first approached scientists with my experiences, I was met with skepticism. The dominant discourse at the time was about lack of female sexual desire being a disorder, something to be fixed, find the magical pink pill.
Researchers were obsessed with pathologies and enhancing sex life. But OM was different. It wasn’t about having better sex; it was about accessing a new state of consciousness. As John Perry Barlow once said, it’s like the difference between a large number and infinity—a gateway.
Then I met Dr. Nicole Prause, a pioneering neuroscientist known for her research on human sexual behavior. She saw that there was a different approach needed in the field. That merely treating dysfunction missed the entire potential. We talked and I shared that from my experience, OM could tap into a unique state of consciousness, fostering a profound connection between individuals and the wider universe.
She then embarked on the largest partnered study since Masters and Johnson. Prause’s rigor was unwavering; she insisted that the results, whatever they might be, must be respected. Like the Dalai Lama, who said that science must be respected, we too were prepared to bow to the findings.
The study confirmed what I had known all along: OM is repeatable, safe, and accelerates human flourishing. Unlike other practices that work in isolation, OM opened a new dialogue, revealing the power of connection and its potential for healing.