A true relationship happens in the invisible.
The material world may or may not be part of it, may or may not contribute to the realization of the relationship.
A true relationship happens in the subtle realms, and the ways we demand it move to the material decrease rather than increase its potency.
In the everyday world, we often mark intimacy by proximity, whereas in the world of Eros, it is marked by the capacity to maintain polarity, irrespective of time and space.
When we are erotically young, we need to learn the material, to establish the physical analog for the workings of love. All lessons are transmitted through physical contact. As we progress, it is not that we must lose physical contact but it is no longer required in order to maintain contact. It is a “both, and.”
The prescribed roles that exist in relationships occurring merely in the physical initially feel comforting; the mind can relax and enter automatic, prescriptive relating. Upon entering such a role within this type of relationship, however, we step out of the endless potential of optionality that requires us to remain forever open and awake to choice.
Whenever we find ourselves in situations with diminishing returns, we can know it is the equivalent to recidivism. We have chosen to return to prison because we will not develop the resources necessary to live in a world of choice.
The key is to begin extending the senses so we can be further and further in physical distance while maintaining continuous connection, without pulling on the thread of physicality. A deep trust must be established so when the physical is called for it will happen organically; this connection is available in the invisible.
In fact, the true calling of what brought us together—the initial magnetism—was to develop these senses. Those we are most attracted to offer the greatest potential to know each other in the subtle realms.
True relationship is walking each other home to freedom and carrying out what is necessary in the name of this love, in the name of this relationship.
The idea of love is rooted in holding or clinging. The action of love is based in an establishing of conditions that will foster liberation. To do this together and apart is the work of love.
Everything, though, will be done in the name of this relationship; every call of the highest order will be offered to it. This is how we grow ourselves out of the immaturity of the mere physical and into our realized potential, which happens in both the physical and the invisible.