In Eros, the physical experience of sex is the vehicle to transport us to the present moment with another human being. We often think people want too much sex, but the issue is that we all ask too little of it. We go from the garage to the driveway and consider it done while the Erotic is inviting us to the outer edges of the known universe. We use what is meant to be a rocket ship like a tricycle.
For the full potential of sex to be realized, we start at its most basic, biological foundation. Just as we rock a baby to sleep, mimicking the comforting rhythm of the heartbeat they once were close to, the physical act of sex tunes into the instinctive pulse and rhythms our own lives emerged from. This alignment allows the rational mind to rest, moving it away from external survival instincts and back to a state where natural care occurs effortlessly.
-The Eros Sutras, Volume 4: Relationship