Plug In, Turn On

Women, We wait.

We wait for the man to change.

We wait for men to change.

We wait for the world to change.

We wait until we feel better, until we have the resources, the energy, the “how.”

What if I were to tell you we have a crossed wire confusing cause and effect?

And what if it is precisely that waiting and holding back is the cause of our own exhaustion, neuroses, frustration, and irritation? It takes more energy to withhold than it does to flow. In fact, flow is generative. Maybe what we see out there, is a result of our individual and collective holding back— maintained by perfectionism, the fear of looking bad, doing it the wrong way.

Here’s some ways out of the knot:

1.
Your intuition is like an Ouija board—you need connection and motion for the message to come through. The aim isn’t to unplug, the aim is to plug into something that has more amperage than the constricting ego. Plug in, go, and the currency of wisdom follows.

2.
In a world where women are bound by concepts from the 1800’s where our value lies in chastity and restraint, we’ve become bottled up with our own power. What if the pressure many women feel is not a result of the demands placed on us, but the backed up energies strangling our creative output?

3.
In yoga, you have a drishti, a point of focus that you maintain no matter what in order to keep balance. Get a drishti, a vision for yourself and the world. Do not look away no matter what, even, and especially, when the barbarians threaten to throw you off balance. Ask yourself, What am I in service to?

4.
Desire trumps challenge. But it can’t be the diluted version that keeps the ego safe and fortified. It’s the one that takes you outside of yourself, into the world, doing what we are here to do: giving each other a lift to the place every human being desires to go—abiding happiness.

5.
If every obstacle were lifted, what would you offer to the world? Offer that now and see if the obstacles, or your relationship to them, shifts.