Consort
Consort: (Verb) To come together for a specific purpose.
This book began as a series of conversations with Nicole Daedone, a way to trace the line between the everyday and the eternal, between Eros and the tantric practices of Tibetan Buddhism. It’s a book about what happens when the sexual meets the sacred, when the body becomes a doorway, a passage through which the divine moves.
Eros—life force, desire, that which connects—comes alive here as that deepest aspect of sex and relating. It’s the current that pulls us, the rhythm of existence itself, the thing we feel humming underneath it all. Tibetan Buddhism has long known this. In the figure of the daka and dakini, masculine and feminine forms of enlightenment, we see the ultimate realization of consortship—the merging of opposites, not to cancel each other out, but to bring something new into being.
This book isn’t an instruction. It’s an invitation into the practice of becoming—what happens when we step beyond the transactional and into the field where everything is alive, electric, and interconnected. It asks: What would it mean to enter into each moment with your whole being? What happens when you let sex become not a goal, but a path?
What if, instead of a body pressing against a body, we understood touch as a way of dissolving boundaries, of pulling down the walls we’ve built to protect ourselves? What if sex wasn’t about gain or loss, but a kind of surrender—a surrender that’s not a defeat, but the most courageous thing we can do?
In Consort, union is not a neat equilibrium between two forces. It’s polarity, tension, and flight. The daka doesn’t dominate the dakini, nor does the dakini fall at his feet. They move, always in response to each other, creating and dissolving, merging and parting, until something entirely new rises from the interplay.
This is a book about that movement, about stepping into the unknown, about the risk and beauty of merging with another. It’s for those who want to ask: What can love, sex, and connection be, if we let them take us beyond what we think we know?