Tips for Erotic Liberation

1. The opposite of overstimulation is not unplugging but plugging in and charging up with something generative—anything you do for the love of doing.

2. Pedal, rather than coast, when you go downhill and going back uphill will be much easier.

3. The cure for obsession is not rejection but compassion. Compassion demands you see another as a human—not a projection of salvation.

4. They will tell you to cage your love in commitment. But the zookeepers and wardens know nothing of love.

5. Be careful when you take that first sip of “poor me”—its a very addictive substance.

6. Look up Tummo online. Try it. I promise you a psychedelic journey.

7. The most interesting people are the ones who meet you with “yes, and” rather than “yeah, but.”

8. If you want to reveal the invisible rules that keep us bound, break them and watch the sanctimony fly. (A good starting point is suggesting that women might want to explore love free of constraint—the women will demand their confinement back and the men will suggest that you are an untoward harlot.)

9. Cowardice is the cause of most righteous indignation.

10. Jealousy is the cause of our collective obsession with the net worth of billionaires.
It’s the excuse we tell ourselves, “because they have, I can’t.”

11. A woman is the most attractive when she is at her edge, something ineffable radiates from her.

12. Habituation is the happiness killer. Always leave the party at the peak.

13. Freedom fighting is not for wimps—remember that Harriet Tubman shot people who tried to 
turn back, lest they threaten everyone who was getting free.

14. The sexiest men are the ones who come so close, the ones who could but don’t until their lover must emerge to fill the gap.

15. You can appreciate someone’s work and talent but still hate what they stand for. Don’t worry, you can feel two ways about the same person at once. It stretches you, makes you supple.

16. Talking is not very interesting. Listening to talking isn’t a lot better. But few can listen to silence together.

17. One of the more gratifying things I’ve done was, at 56 years old, to tell someone to “shut up” since abstaining from the age of 9 
when my mother told me that good girls don’t use that expression.

18. Boy, it’s hard to see what’s behind the curtain and zip your lip about what you see. But the world does make it easier by suggesting that you are a nut case or deviant when you do.

19. Words like “supremacy,” “systematic,” and “oppressed” are to politics what over-writing is
to literature—a sloppy unwillingness to 
“show don’t tell.”

20. Okay look, when you French kiss, should you French kiss—the tip of the tongue touching the tip of the tongue with the charge of saliva. It’s the conduit to the soul.

21. That which intimidates you, owns you. Face your dragons until you are free. What is free? The ability to be the uncontrived, spontaneous you.

22. There is no greater rebellion than to make yourself simultaneously ungovernable by man and obedient to the dharma.

23. Please, I am begging you to stop with these two phrases in your memes: “Read that again” 
and “Normalize ___.” They are just 
sadistically paternalistic.

24. Someone once suggested that I say yes to
all requests and that it would sort itself out. I was surprised that for the most part, it did. People are happier wanting to want than having.

25. Anaïs Nin’s genius as a sensuality pioneer
hides under her celebrity; she was a writer’s writer.

26. The most advanced players delight when they encounter the disruptors and disruptions of our time—those are creative energy being unleashed. The novice players issue grave warnings with statistics and use the unleashed energy to spread moral panic.

27. Beware of the jealous gods that nestle up next to you when you have something they want and can’t remember your name when you don’t.

28. Plants in your house are a most worthwhile endeavor and make truly great allies in your room.

29. The poem that accompanies the Statue of Liberty, spoken with silent lips—“Give me your tired, your poor, Your huddled masses yearning to breathe free”—is a great personal mantra.

30. No one needs to know your history to know who you are. In fact they don’t even need to hear your story. They just need to watch you order your lunch and therein lies the microcosm of our lives.

31. No one ever got power by taking another down.