One of the Great Unspoken Illnesses of Modern Love

One of the great unspoken illnesses of modern love is that we do not know how to receive the good. Good can take many forms, from a sudden increase in intimacy between two people to moments of generosity.

The mind that’s built its identity on hunger mistakes nourishment for danger. It begins its quiet work of sabotage. Gathering reasons, building cases, whispering, something must be wrong here.

This is the secret heartbreak of our time: not that love is absent, but that when it arrives, we cannot let it in. The good feels foreign, almost unbearable, because it dissolves the small self we’ve used to survive. So we pick fights, withdraw, turn away, all in the name of balance, all in the service of an old identity trying to stay intact.

But If we can follow the inner thread back to that point and acknowledge the moment of good it becomes the beginning of a new order.To receive good is a radical act. It breaks the logic of scarcity. It undoes the mind that feeds on lack. In that surrender, something wider than the self begins to breathe through us.