TurnON is Sympathetic

To engage erotically is, in a sense, to engage for someone else—not in a way that sacrifices yourself, but because that’s where the turn-on lives. Your deepest arousal doesn’t come from your own sensations alone—it comes from feeling something moving through another person. Their experience becomes your experience, and that transmission, that resonance, enlivens you. It’s a deeply erotic state, to live at that level of sympathetic connection. And the more you let go of your fixed sense of self, the more that sympathetic joy arises. You dissolve into it. You become available.

When you engage erotically—which, for you, is how you engage with everyone—you do it on their terms. That’s what it really means to arise according to the need of the moment. You become Eros itself. As Eros, you become a sensing organ, attuning, listening with your whole body. What will have this person feel safe, seen, connected—in such a way that the gate opens, rapport deepens, and intimacy flickers to life in the room? That’s all you care about. Not whether they understand you or your life or your work. You rarely talk about yourself, and when you do, it’s only because it’s the only way they’ll hear what you’re trying to offer. You don’t speak to be known—you speak to reach them.

Your presence becomes a kind of mirror, a channel through which they can feel themselves more clearly. They relax, they open, because they are being felt—not judged, not analyzed, but truly sensed.

That’s what you’re here for. To let Eros move through you, as you, in the simplest and most radical ways.