The ways we relate to desire reveal how we perceive it. Do we regard it as something troublesome we engage with in a struggle for control? Or something we can no longer resist due to a weakness in our character? If we knew the true nature of desire, we would describe it another way: as the evolutionary life force that contains within it infinitely more wisdom than we can comprehend.
We try to convince ourselves that with enough gumption and rigid determination, we can both control desire and keep it at bay. Desire neither needs nor uses force, though in the limited constructs of our minds, we believe it is imposing its will on us. The truth is, desire is the bigger will that shows us who we really are and who we are becoming. Whether desire will have its way with us is not up for argument. What is up to us is how long it takes and how difficult a process we make it.