The Role of the Eros-Sattva

Some questions are worth asking, again and again:

Is that true?

Is that true for me?

Is that true for all people?

As far as I can tell, has that been true throughout time?

And—most importantly—is that true for women?

Because here’s the thing—what is “true” for men is often sold to women as universal truth. But women’s needs are not the same as men’s. The spiritual traditions that tell us to dissolve the self, to transcend the body, to strip away identity until nothing remains—those were made for men. Women are not here to dissolve. Women are here to develop—to build a self, to deepen into embodiment, to descend fully into life.

The message so many women have absorbed—that purity is about less—less sensation, less experience, less sex, less desire—is a lie. We are told that to be worthy, we must remain untouched, unsullied, unmarked by life. But women are not empty vessels meant to be kept pristine. Women are purifying systems. We are not made to avoid the mess of life—we are made to transmute it.

That’s what sexuality does. It circulates. It transforms. The real danger is not in taking too much in. The real danger is in stagnation—becoming cut off from the flow of Eros, trapped in stale air with no movement, no life, no circulation.

If men seek to ascend, women are made to move energy through. Our work is not in avoidance, but in transformation. The role of an Eros-sattva—a woman fully anchored in her erotic nature—is not a delicate one. It is to take in everything, even the darkest, heaviest, most distorted energies, and circulate them until they are turned back into love.