Trusting the Sensation of Love Over Form

We often believe that if we create a form of relating, be it dating or marriage, then love will appear. That if we define it, structure it, name it, we can contain love inside it. But love is not something to construct—it is something we allow.

We are taught to believe that form controls essence—that if we create the right conditions, the deeper truth will follow. But essence cannot be forced into a structure.

Form is often an obstacle to essence. 

Instead of trusting the sensation of love, we grasp at external markers to validate it, only to find ourselves further from its source. But the moment we do this, we trade the actual feeling for a concept. We move from presence to ideology, stepping out of love itself in an attempt to secure it.

Real love is the flow of connection, free from the need to control or contain it.

You will know you are loved not by how tightly someone holds onto you but by how free you feel in their presence.