To give from scarcity is to build a world of scarcity; scarcity begets scarcity. It is often passive, doing what needs to be done in order to get through. It carries with it and delivers a sense of lack.
No one is ever very happy with what she offers because she is not offering the only thing that would give it that quality—herself. But she can only offer herself when she has surplus. She can only have surplus when she has power.
And, she can only have power as a woman when she is plugged into her true Erotic self.