An Erotic Woman Is a Gracious Woman

An Erotic woman is a gracious woman, not because she has learned how to pretend better than other women, but because she is wealthy in attention. The attention that would otherwise be spent on ensuring her position with a man, a career, among other women, or financially has been invested in her power.

She operates from a position of choice rather than need.

The single addition of volition that comes from being an already-full woman changes all experiences. When she starts with “this that I have is already enough,” a whole world of behaviors falls away.

The power that flows from this fullness opens the hand that grips. She needs and consumes less when she has fundamental gratification as her base, because she is getting the most out of what she already has.

This is very different from the so-called noble qualities of withstanding, restriction, or deprivation. She feels no lack. She is full and overflowing.

~The Eros Sutras, Volume 4: Relationship