The Essential Skill for Intimacy

There is an art to art, which lies in savoring the ability to sustain, in the same way we would sustain a note.

We build this by holding our attention on an experience while progressively opening more to it. This capacity to savor is the essential for intimacy.

Our ability to sustain attention determines the depth to which intimacy can unfold for us—recognizing 
that it might not, yet acknowledging that this is the only path through which it can.