Category: Memoir


I love Valentines day.

I’m like someone who starts hanging Christmas lights in November. I celebrate the entire week.

I think the story is beautiful.  That St. Valentine, likely himself celibate was willing to go against the throne, holding secret marriage ceremonies-suffering execution for his service to love, feels to me like a concentrate of what love is-breaking the rules of the throne of the known world, answering to the authority of a pull you cannot escape.  Dying for it because you could not live with yourself if you didn’t serve love first. View full article »

A brilliant friend of mine, an actual rocket scientist – having recently taken on the practice of oming and approaching it with the thoroughness someone who is responsible for launching objects into space would – was having reservations.  He liked the excitement he felt when he looked at his woman’s pussy, that flood and rush he felt at the sight, so deeply associated with the possibility of entry.  He had a very reasonable fear that the excitement would wane, that the once titillating sight of her pillowy lips, with this meditative aspect leading the charge, would come to have about the same charge as a monk’s cushion.

He asked my thoughts.

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It didn’t matter the hotel.  All doors are the same and most men answer in a similar fashion.   Slowly.  The twist of the knob, the drop of the bearing, the click of the deadbolt.  Nearby a businessman enters his room fatigued, his once stand-at-attention oxford ballooning at the back as if in a giant exhale of exhaustion.  Maybe five doors down, with a cart beside him – two shiny silver domes, a bottle of champagne, strawberries, a room service waiter standing by. The waiter is young, wearing the white coat with the chain between buttons.  He glimpses you, no overt cues and yet he knows.  Your posture erect, wool Burberry coat, Lauren pumps, Coach envelope clutch.  You could just as easily be sitting at the pub across the street from the train station, waiting for your husband.  You could but you wouldn’t be.  And this boy knows it because he is still young enough that his sense of smell is acute.  He can smell you.  He can smell you in a way that gets beneath the surface of the minds skin, where feeling reigns.  His body looks up, locks on.  You draw every molecule in and down some invisible drain through the floor.

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I remember this feeling.  I entered the room and the John would be wearing the hotel robe.  There would often be an agitation surrounding him.  The air of the room was one of having been caught off guard, as if he didn’t have time to pull himself together and I was seeing him all strewn out.  Pulled apart by longing, insecurity, fantasy, desire.  My work was to massage that into his tissue, to extract the impurities, to return him to himself.

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You.  Ask. Me. To take you.  There.  I look, up.  You smile.  I break.  Open.  You wonder if I know. Who you are. Of course I do.  I don’t want to.  I do.  You are too deep inside of my mind.  My hand moves through you, molecules drifting.  Your hips View full article »

This is what I do and this is how I do it.  The recipe for cooking yourself.

First, I do it from the inside.  I get my hands in there.  Knead the stuff directly.  I don’t stand outside it, above it or below it.  I don’t use theories or affirmations or escape routes.  I look for the place where I am locked up. Precisely that.  I aim my heat seeking missile and I go there.

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The whole scene feels as though it’s awash in Sepia.  The booths, the brown leather upholstery, the table between us, the exposed wood with rings like fingerprints.  I run my hands over the wood, feel the grooves tickle like Braille.  Sitting across from him, I am upright solely because the back of the booth is supporting me.  He is discussing the book he’s been reading, a true story about a plane that crashed on an island leaving only three survivors, two men and a woman.  I can barely listen, because as the words tumble out of his mouth, he has already reached across the table, View full article »

No one wants to beg please. To let the word exhale like smoke from a cigarette you went around the corner to smoke. In secret. But then someone you know walks past. You try to hold your breath. The smoke exits without permission, every orifice.

That kind of please, the kind of please I say, in a whisper, in a quiet shame burning beneath the smolder. You know the one, the entirety of my View full article »

It struck me that there are certain beliefs that are normative that I simply don’t hold.  And others that are not, that are primary in my life.  I found myself trying to contort myself into all of these very uncomfortable positions, trying to look like I was operating by the standard rules of play – while all the while, in back rooms, I was playing an altogether different game.

I felt like Valjean in Les Miserables who, realizing that he could not feed his family, made the conscious choice to steal a loaf of bread.  In the moment the act had clean intent, but doubt and second-guessing seep in in hindsight, nibbling at his belief in his own rightness.

In other words, his interior compass, upon contact with the magnetizing force of the status quo, went haywire and he lost his sense of due north.

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It happened without expectation. On a quiet afternoon, the image flooded in before I could dismiss it. There it was. A Center.

I was lying in my esthetician’s chair, clay mask on my face, hands tucked in the fuzzy warmers, hair tucked into a terry wrap as if it were the 1940s, when I heard the voice:

“NOW IS THE TIME TO OPEN THE CENTER”.

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